It contain 8 workshop, cover 8 different CORE NEEDS.
Yesterday (May 8)
- Simple Parenting Matters
- Perants involvement in their children Matters
- We cannot raise our children by proxy
- and not all children are the same...
- With the help of multimedia and group exercises, we iwll explore three Lifetraps and how to meet one Core Need weekly.
Below is what i want to share:-
The parenting is not mean must be Perfect Parent but must be Good Enough Parent. And the good parenting must have a great Marriage. As a parent, we need to keep learn and it must be train- take life time to learn. When our marriage fall apart it affect our kid school work. So the relationship between husband and wife must be good. And we alway ask:
'Why do i behave the way i do' 'Why do my childred behave the way they do'
When a child's Core Needs are not met, combines w his/her TEMPERAMENT and environment, 'Lifetraps' will develop.
Movie - 'Click'
I havenot watch this movie before, but it worth to watch. It abt a husband and a family, how the husband treat a work, relationship, family... the end of his life is he lost what his main aim.
Remember Family alway go 1st:
1. Great Marriage
2. Parenting
3. Others
Core Needs:
1. Basic Safety
2. Stable Base & Predictability
3. Guidance & Protection
4. Love, Nurturing & Attention
5. Empathy
6. Validation of Feelings
7. Acceptance & Praise
8. Sprirituality
It cover 3 lifetrap this week:-
- Emotional Deprivation- when one's desire for a normal degree of emotional support is not adequately met by others. Absenceof attention, affection, warmth or companionship, undestanding, listenning, self-disclosure or mutual sharing of feeling fr others, strenght, dictection, or guidance fr others.
- Defectiveness - the feeling that one is defective, bad, unwanted, inferior, or invalid in impartant respects; or that one would be unloveble to significant others if exposed. May involve hypersensitivity to criticism, rejection, and blame; self-consciouness, comparisons, and insecurity ard others; or sense of shame regarding on's perceived flaws. These flaws may be private or public.
- Emotional Inhibition - the excessive inhibition of spontaneous action, feeling, or communicatin - usually to avoid disapproval by others, feelings of shame, or losing control of one's impulses.
The three coping style:
- fight aka counter attack
- fight aka escape, avoidance
- fight aka surrender
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