31May2009

My view outside the playpen.

30May09

Arthur not use to under aircon room...
He will wake up when inside aircon room,
I must under 22c degree...

Welcome My Little Brother!!!

弟弟... How r u?

I m ur 姐姐。

I m sick... cannot too close with 弟弟

Mummy miss Celest...

27May2009

Arthur like to cry

Am we look alike?

1303 Arthur's arrived

He is 2.855 kg and 49cm, slightly smaller than me :)

He look cute

Mummy and Arthur

Arthur and Daddy-Mummy... w/o me :(

Celest & Arthur

Mammy gog to deliver tonight...

Di di... how r u now?

We gog to meet each other soon...

I will love u and sayang u.

Terminal 3

so spaces!!!

This is aunty Zel with her daughter- Ning Ning

She is Ning Ning, she is 18mth +

Hi...

compare with Ningning, Im too active!!!

Parent... They try , try, and try... to let us sit together

hahah... u see...

and u see...

Ning Ning feel tire liao

Back!!!

We finally back to Singapore!!!
Here got alot of playground...

10 May 2009_ Pet Safari

We went Simei Pet Safari after church service...

*** according by Daddy, this Pet safari is 70% smaller than few year ago.

24 March 2009

We alway have our healthy breadfast here...

This is daddy & Mummy... Breadfast...

Only drink and drink...

19 March 2009

Nice Scene

Looking a 豆豆班 (preschool) for celest!!! any recomment???

Mammy wanna sent me to pre-school or playgroup, any aunty or uncle can share?

Good Enough Parenting II

Who really interested in this topic,
can join the following workshop on may and June.
May 15 Basic Safety
May 22 stable Base & predictability, Guidance & Protectin
May 29 Love, nutruring & attention
June 5 Empathy
June 12 validation of feeeling
June 19 Acceptance & praise
June 26 Spirituality

John and Karen Louis developed and launched "Good-Enough Parenting", a schema prevention parenting programme, based on Schema Therapy founded by Dr. Jeffrey Young.
ref the following URL http://www.movietherapy.org.sg/movietherapy/home.htm

CENTRAL CHRISTIAN CHURCH SINGAPORE (Punggol)
Tel : (65) 6343 8462

Good Enough Parenting

A Schema Prevention Parenting Programme by John & Karen Louis using Movie Therapy.

It contain 8 workshop, cover 8 different CORE NEEDS.

Yesterday (May 8)

1. Simple Parenting Matters
2. Perants involvement in their children Matters
3. We cannot raise our children by proxy
4. and not all children are the same...
5. With the help of multimedia and group exercises, we iwll explore three Lifetraps and how to meet one Core Need weekly.

Below is what i want to share:-
The parenting is not mean must be Perfect Parent but must be Good Enough Parent. And the good parenting must have a great Marriage. As a parent, we need to keep learn and it must be train- take life time to learn. When our marriage fall apart it affect our kid school work. So the relationship between husband and wife must be good. And we alway ask:
'Why do i behave the way i do' 'Why do my childred behave the way they do'

When a child's Core Needs are not met, combines w his/her TEMPERAMENT and environment, 'Lifetraps' will develop.

Movie - 'Click'
I havenot watch this movie before, but it worth to watch. It abt a husband and a family, how the husband treat a work, relationship, family... the end of his life is he lost what his main aim.

Remember Family alway go 1st:
1. Great Marriage
2. Parenting
3. Others

Core Needs:
1. Basic Safety
2. Stable Base & Predictability
3. Guidance & Protection
4. Love, Nurturing & Attention
5. Empathy
6. Validation of Feelings
7. Acceptance & Praise
8. Sprirituality

It cover 3 lifetrap this week:-

• Emotional Deprivation- when one's desire for a normal degree of emotional support is not adequately met by others. Absenceof attention, affection, warmth or companionship, undestanding, listenning, self-disclosure or mutual sharing of feeling fr others, strenght, dictection, or guidance fr others.
• Defectiveness - the feeling that one is defective, bad, unwanted, inferior, or invalid in impartant respects; or that one would be unloveble to significant others if exposed. May involve hypersensitivity to criticism, rejection, and blame; self-consciouness, comparisons, and insecurity ard others; or sense of shame regarding on's perceived flaws. These flaws may be private or public.
• Emotional Inhibition - the excessive inhibition of spontaneous action, feeling, or communicatin - usually to avoid disapproval by others, feelings of shame, or losing control of one's impulses.

The three coping style:

1. fight aka counter attack
2. fight aka escape, avoidance
3. fight aka surrender